When I joined the spiritual life I thought that it always be like how it was at the beginning- in which I would just have revelation after revelation. Doors would open to me and my life would be perpetually bathed in amazements.
I’m saying this because the gap between the spiritual life and the ordinary life that I was used to, that I was brought up in was so vast- and I thought that that’s how things would be.
But that’s not the case!
Unfortunately or maybe fortunately, I have my six or seven daily spiritual practices, mostly involving chanting or reading of spiritual books, and I do my chanting and reading every day- as I shuffle through the minefield of my life’s mistakes.
One practice that I’ve learned recently is not to really give my shortcomings and mistakes too much attention but to spend most of my time focusing on the things that uplift me and help me: reading, recitation, singing, gratitude-offering.
So I guess what I’m trying to say in a roundabout way is that the spiritual life as I have lived it is essentially a lot of repetitious practices conducted with a view to these techniques eventually transforming me. It’s slow going.
I sing Sri Chinmoy’s Forgiveness song “Jiban Debata” (God of my life) many times a day. This is just an example of a spiritual practice that I do over and over every day. How many times I do it doesn’t matter. What matters is the soulfulness and the sincerity.
Soulfulness and sincerity! When I’m doing my daily sadhana, my inner “homework”, if I feel sincerity and soulfulness, I know I’m on the right track.
But when I don’t feel soulful or sincere I just do my daily meditation and practice anyway! What’s the alternative?
The first time I cried during an artistic performance was back in March of 2008, during a performance of the Saint Matthew Passion by J.S. Bach, performed at Avery Fisher hall and conducted by Kurt Masur. There’s a powerful opening chorus where Jesus Christ is referred to as the lamb and there’s a double soprano chorus of women mourning him and lamenting for him and then the chorus ends abruptly and Christ stands up and says to his disciples : “You know in two days I am going to be handed over and crucified!” And the following chorus is this keening lullaby: “Herzliebster Jesu, Was Hast Du Verbrochen” (O sweet-hearted Jesus, what law have you broken?” and it is so pathetic that I started shedding tears and I shed tears throughout the performance.
The next time I cried at a performance was in 2023, so about 15 years later. I attended another performance of the Saint Matthew Passion, this time put on by a local church. The tenor, who plays the Evangelist, has the biggest role as he narrates the story. In this case the tenor came from the Deep South, but sang in impeccable German, and just the depth of his feeling, the depth of his oratory brought forward my tears and I noticed some of the musicians were also shedding tears. A sea of tears. It was transformational. I am not a Christian. But when the St Matthew Passion is done well, for three hours I do become a Christian so that I can fully participate in the mystery and the majesty of this immortal music.
Until recently those were the only times I’ve ever cried at a public performance. I find public expressions of emotion unbalancing and disconcerting. I’m an emotional guy which is not a good or a bad thing but I’m also an extreme extrovert! This is not the best combination.
But I treasure my time alone. I like being with people but I really like being alone- with my books and my thoughts, my music and my poetry.
I go to all of my community’s (the Sri Chinmoy Center’s) spiritual Celebrations and every time I find it overwhelming- these public gatherings with people from all over the world. I often take refuge in the “housing office” appointed apartment, refurbished just for us, or unfurnished just for us, but always impeccably clean. And I stay there in my decrepit or ultra modern tower and I just read Guru’s books.
Last night I went to a performance of Angels In America, a justly famous play written by my landsman Tony Kushner. A few weeks ago, I saw two guys smoking outside of the theatre. I had seen the signs and I asked them if it was true that they were putting on Angels In America, and they said it was. I then asked them who was playing Prior, and one of the guys, tall, skinny and blond, shook my hand and told me he was. And his friend, a Black man, came up and told me he was playing Belize, the rough equivalent of King Lear’s “Fool” who sees things the other characters don’t. We spoke for a few minutes, and they were both in character! It was such a privilege to talk with them.
In the first scene of the play a younger middle-aged guy named Lewis is burying his grandmother and the rabbi is lamenting that all of her grandchildren have goyisher (non-Jewish) names. After the funeral Lewis goes home to his partner, his boyfriend. The play takes place in 1985 in New York, and his boyfriend, Prior, says “I have to show you something”- and he rolls up his sleeve and he shows Lewis a purple spot on his arm. For a sexually active gay man, in 1985, to find a purple lesion on his arm, a cardinal sign of HIV infection, is an incontrovertible death sentence. The actor who was portraying Lewis started to cry and it didn’t feel like forced tears, but hysterical tears of despair.
I didn’t sniffle, but copious tears streamed down my face. These tears did not leave me.
Lewis says to his partner, Prior, that he doesn’t think he can stay and watch Prior die and Prior asks Lewis not to leave him but Lewis leaves him anyway!
Lewis goes to his rabbi and he asks the rabbi “What do the scriptures say about someone who betrayed a loved one in their time of greatest need?” And the rabbi says that the scriptures have nothing to say about such a person.
The play has a few more subplots- prescriptions pills, Mormon moms, Black drag queens, the infamous Roy Cohn, and the fuzzy borderlands between dreams and waking life where we sometimes, fleetingly, glimpse deep truths. The eloquence of the writing, and the emotional honesty and vulnerability of the characters left an impression on me.
My friend who taught theater for many years at a local Christian college, told me that Angels In America is one of the greatest plays of the twentieth century, and he made his students study it. Some of his students come from missionary families, and protested being assigned a play that depicts things like gay sex and drug use. He would respond to them that the message of the play is resonant with the Gospel, that we are the angels in America ourselves, and it is our duty to take care of each other. He told me he couldn’t produce the play at this college, but he did assign it as reading.
The play is about many things: Where do we derive our sense of right and wrong? Who do we listen to when we make moral choices? Can we trace a streak of the divine operating in American history?
Lewis’s AIDS-infected boyfriend Prior, in the course of the play, turns out to be some kind of divinely chosen messenger! So another question that occurred to me last night was: “How broken do you have to be before God feels that you will be surrendered enough to convey his messages?”
I guess the sense of brokenness and betrayal is taken up by Bach in his St. Matthew Passion as well.
The goal of my spiritual practice, my sadhana (funny, the auto-dictation heard “sad night”) is to reach that state where I can shed soulful tears for God. I don’t mean pretend tears, or crocodile or demonstrative tears, but authentic tears for God.
Unfortunately, in my day to day spiritual life, that doesn’t happen with me.
I go through the motions, I do everything by rote. I try for soulfulness, but tears do not come.
But when I saw the St. Matthew Passion, and also last night when I saw Angels In America, I shed genuine and soulful tears, in silence.
Sitting next to me was some guy who looked like a Hell’s Angel with the beard, the tattoos and the long braided red hair, and I caught him three or four times wiping away his tears.
The spiritual life must always be new. Guru says “That which is eternal is outwardly new.” (From God the Supreme Musician)
If I can’t renew my sadhana on my own, then I think it’s good for me to see the greatest works of art that can evoke really deep and soulful tears, for it is through the tears of the soul that I recover newness- and also the sense of purpose that I started my spiritual life with.
Sometimes I worry that some of my thoughts and actions may separate me from my own divinity, and so last night, while I was empathizing with the characters on stage I took advantage of these tears to beg my Master for his forgiveness-oneness. I realized finally that these were really tears of self reflection and self discovery.
But whether they were tears of repentance or gratitude or discovery I can’t deny that, like Bach’s immortal Passion, Angels in America gives me a chance to connect with something deeper and universal in myself. Therefore I can say that those tears were ultimately tears of my soul’s joy.
I am a spiritual seeker. I don’t need anything else.
Thanks, Prior.